[From] The Mind of a Savage Woman
I’m going to do my best to approach this unbiasedly. As a wordsmith I pay close attention to words: trends, wordplay, context, things that are said without being said, etc. I remember when something was said to be bad, it was supposed to be interpreted as good. (Ie. “Girl those shoes are bad.”) A person that is “dope” is awesome, when in the dominant culture, drugs are referred to as “dope” with negative connotation. “The B word” was once offensive but now comes in the form of a double negative “Bad B*tch.” That’s a woman that has it all together and is especially attractive. The saying “times are changing” is everlasting. The role and characteristics of women has changed throughout the centuries and as of now it has become agreeable and respected for women to be “savages.”
A savage is a woman that overcomes heartbreak and becomes a heartbreaker. She may be manipulative, a player, “sexually liberated,” a user, so-on, so-forth. She’s the embodiment of Steven Harvey’s concept “think like a man, act like a woman.” It’s disturbing that women have to use these types of mindsets as guards for the heart. A savage is a woman that can enter a relationship or relationships without emotional commitment and return the favor to the stereotypical cheating man. While on the surface, a woman who can engage with a man without emotional ties seems praiseworthy, it should be alarming. The “savage” women is actually a bitter one.
Bitterness presents itself in many forms: grudges, vindication, anger, Depression, pettiness, [covert] fear, jealousy-the list is extensive. One of the more saddening facts about the bitter or savage woman is how she seems to fail to see the damaged condition she’s in. Woman was created for the pleasure of a man; not because a woman is a second-class human, but because the man was created first. God is a God of love. I honestly believe that humanity was created to love because man took on attributes of God. I further believe, it is our makeup as women to love and be loved, nurture, and wallow in the strength of a man. Unfortunately, the greater representation of men do not always present character that would make a woman comfortable in falling back into the words (or “promises” of a man). My point: we as women were not created to be savages. It is unnatural. We are literally not built for it. Although the savage mindset is one that seems to be easier and is widely accepted these days, it’s unhealthy and devastating to emotional growth. All in all, I don’t think there is one savage that can step forward and truthfully express happiness in her state of fragment. Why is fragment even mentioned? Because a bitter woman is a broken one. A woman that gives her body but not her heart is only giving a piece of herself. A woman that gives her time but not her attention is giving a piece of herself. A woman that offers portions of herself to someone but keeps other portions to herself cannot fully experience love and that’s what the savage woman wants; to control how deep things go and walk away victimizing without being victimized herself. Why? Because the savage woman is a bitter woman with patchwork and self-medicated wounds.
My theory: The newer generations are doing too much. No one wants to show their cards or be hurt. Former hurts are released because forgiving and forgetting is seen as weak. Commitment is taboo. Standards are despised. Love is misused and and altogether misrepresented. Relationship goals are based on social media posts and reality shows. People have recreated a facet of God that was here before we ever existed (love). Relationships have been manufactured based on trends. Pride fuels heartbreak and revenge. However, I can assure the savage woman that life will be much more beautiful when you heal and and move forward with full knowledge of true love and a willingness to embrace it. I really want to “take it there” and mention the role of the irresponsible man in a bitter woman’s life but I’ll save that for “another day.” Ladies don’t be afraid to love and be loved.